Roy Mitchell Becker

September 1, 1931June 21, 2022
Obituary of Roy Mitchell Becker
On Tuesday, June 21st Roy Mitchell Becker passed away peacefully surrounded by family at the home of his Granddaughter Emily, in Virginia Beach, VA. Born in 1931 in Chicago of Danish immigrants Peder and Anna Becker. Young Peder’s name was changed from Beckhoj to Becker at Ellis island while immigrating from Denmark as a teenager. Roy was the youngest of three boys, including brothers Gordon and Earl. Roy, A.KA. “Grumpy” as the grandchildren and great grandchildren nicknamed him, was far from grumpy. He possessed unbelievable energy and was determined to live life to the fullest. Roy was 100% Danish and he believed his Viking heritage and strong genes were the reason he lived nearly 91 yrs. Roy grew up in Chicago and joined the Air Force during the Korean War. While stationed near Boise, Idaho, he met, fell in love, and married Frances Marion Hammer. The newlyweds moved to San Diego where Roy graduated from San Diego State with a degree in Political Science. With his amazing work ethic and aptitude for DIY work, Roy built his first house himself with some help from a few older men he met locally. Since Roy was so handy and mechanically inclined, he landed a job with Martin Marietta which led him to Santa Maria, CA where he and Frances raised 3 children, Gary, Lori, and Kristy Becker-Rolen. Roy and Frances became members of the Santa Maria Country Club, where the entire family enjoyed playing golf and tennis while developing many wonderful friendships. Roy loved hosting weekend barbeques and an annual “Becker Bash” which took place every Thanksgiving Friday. Hospitality, generosity, and community were always at Roy and Frances’ core, and Roy’s home was always open to all friends, as many will still attest. Roy retired after 32 years with Martin Marietta, and was proud of his contribution to the missile program at Vandenberg AFB. The company’s annual picnics they held at the Union Oil fields picnic facility were a fond memory. In retirement, Roy loved traveling with his family to exotic places like Italy, Bali, Greece, Ecuador, Belize, and many more. Roy’s last years were spent in Virginia Beach to be close to his Great Grandchildren. He loved driving his souped-up red-scooter along the boardwalk dropping into his favorite watering holes, listening to bands, and mixing with the locals. He always wore his Korean War Veteran hat, which prompted many people in the military community to come up to him and say “thank you for your service, sir.” This would create a conversation and a chance to meet a new friend. The last week of Roy’s life was shared with four generations of the family he started. Music, food, laughter, tears, and above all, love, flowed openly in a beautiful celebration of his life. Near the end, Roy shared that “this is the way to go, I lived a great life, I am so blessed.” Roy is survived by his aforementioned children, his six Grandchildren, Emily Becker-Bernard, Brandon Becker, Rachel Becker, Mitchell Becker, Alyssa Rolen and Nick Rolen and his five great grandchildren Zoey Schell, Conner Bernard, Jayden Bernard, Brooklyn Bernard and Collin Bernard. Roy's wishes were to be present for an end of life celebration with his close family as such, there will be no funeral service. If you wish to leave a condolence for the family, visit

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