Carl Stephen Stadler

July 20, 1944July 23, 2021

In the waning days, I asked, “Are you ready to go? Or would you like to stay a bit longer?”

Steve’s brown eyes opened. Mustering a breath, with his characteristic wry smile, he confidently sang out, “Yes”; one eyebrow’s crooked gesture indicating it was my turn to volley back.

Always joking, antagonizing, and teaching - that was how Steve maximized each moment. Leader for many, he taught hundreds to swim and thousands how to work. Committed to recreation and community, in his professional life he grew a system of parks and programs for Grandview, Missouri, during his 30 year career there. After several thwarted attempts spanning many years, Steve was able to finally see his vision realised - spearheading the funding, design, and programming for an engaging recreation and community center to serve all the citizens of Grandview.

Many of his accomplishments were possible because of the generosity of Elliot “Bud” Spratt, who helped pay tuition for Steve to attend college at William Jewell. This opportunity made all the difference in the world to a bright young man whose college aspirations seemed out of reach. After college graduation, Steve served one tour in Vietnam for the US Army. Steve married our mother, Sharon E. Dunn, prior to leaving for bootcamp. After his return they raised us (quite well, I’ll add) in this home.

In retirement, he reconnected with old friends and family, including many from his hometown of St. Joseph, Missouri. The hard driving leader migrated to a gentle caring friend, father, grandfather, and brother. A perceptive listener, Steve bridged social gaps through conversation and his never-failing wit.

This is how we remember Steve, our Dad. He’s gone from this earth, but his impact is lasting and rewarding.

If you knew Steve, or if his story reminds you of a similar larger-than-life figure, please do a kind deed for someone in your community. Impact someone’s life. Maximize every moment. It’ll make all the difference in the world. In lieu of flowers, cards, and other gifts please donate to your community or your area school. If you have the means, help sponsor a young person’s college education and afford them the same opportunity to contribute.

Steve is survived by son Doug Stadler, daughter Allison Bird, brother Charles Stadler, sister Sharon Richey, brother Richard Stadler, and their loving families.


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Carl Stephen Stadler

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Debbie Billings

August 9, 2021

Doug and Allison,
Sorry to hear about your father, you all were great neighbors in Parkhills! A few years ago I was in the neighborhood and spoke with your dad, very nice to catch up about the good ole days.

I will keep you in my prayers
Debbie Billings

Rodney Fink

August 6, 2021

Sympathy to the family. In regards to Carla Acton, I believe there were 8 daughters and 1 son (Carl, Carl Stephens father) in the family of Charles Stadler (my great Uncle). The only child I
Remember is Charles Lee who was a few years younger than me. I also remember Mae DeCamp quite well.
Rodney Fink

Carla Acton

August 5, 2021

I’m curious if I am related to this family. My name is Carla Kurtz Acton read my grandmother on my father side’s name was Emma Stadler Kurtz. I was thinking that my grandma had only one brother and his name was Carl. I think there were eight daughters and one son in this family